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Christmas 2019

We started the weekend with our annual Christmas party on Saturday evening, with Crossed 4 playing live, followed by DJ Emma Shard. We started the evening with some great party food, followed by a Secret Santa. On Sunday, we had our annual Christmas meal, hosted at Miss Molly’s Tearoom – what a great turnout! Good food and good company is what the holidays are all about!

Cream Tea & Party – 6th July

We started the day off with an afternoon cream tea & cake event, which was very well-attended and well-received! It was a lovely day for it, the sun didn’t stop shining and everyone had such a good time that they requested that we repeat the event soon!

In the evening, we had a live band playing for us called Crossed Four, who were excellent and kept us all dancing well into the night!

After Crossed Four, DJ Nicole Stone finished off the evening with some classic dance tunes.

GenderGP Roadshow – 8th June 2019

What an amazing event. We had GenderGP down for their first ever Roadshow. The event was aimed at answering questions and dispelling rumours about the medical side of transition. We had almost 60 people attend the afternoon, with quite a few of those staying on for the evening.

There was quite a lot of anxiety from those in attendance about the current issues that trans people face transitioning through the NHS. GenderGP were extremely helpful and willing to answer questions about how trans people can approach their GPs in light of the waiting lists.

Whilst GenderGP are a private service, they were very encouraging and helpful to those who want to, or have no option but to, continue on the NHS route. With current waiting times exceeding 4 years before hormones can be accessed, working with GPs to provide alternative solutions is the way forward.

As part of our ongoing work, Safe Haven and GenderGP will be working together to provide information packs and guidance for trans people and GPs on bridging prescriptions and other ways that GPs can advocate for trans patients who are facing exceedingly long waiting times.

Gender GP Roadshow

In response to concerns about the current NHS waiting lists, GenderGP is coming down to sunny Cornwall for their first ever Roadshow! The aim of the event is to inform trans people & their families on the medical side of transitioning and what your options are.

This is worth attending even if you’re not quite sure if you want to medically transition, as the experts will be able to answer any questions you have. You also don’t need to be considering private care to attend.

We are very proud to welcome people across the whole gender variant spectrum and are by no means an organisation that focuses on medical transition. However, we have quite a number of people who are either considering medical transition, going through the process or have completed their medical transition.

As you are probably well aware there are currently a significant number of issues involved in the whole process, from initial GP contact and support, the availability of drugs and hormones from the internet prompting self-medication, and the ever-increasing delays with the NHS, including a least one GIC now advising people to go private.

In light of this, we have planned a free-to-attend GenderGP Roadshow starting at 14:30 on Saturday 8th June to discuss all issues around the whole transition process from initial counselling to post-operation support.  This day has been arranged to provide information and answer questions on ‘all you ever wanted to know’ about the implications, process and costs of transitioning. We will be supported on this day by a team from GenderGP and invites are being extended to appropriate groups across the South West.

The day is open to all, regardless of whether currently on the transition route or not, across all gender expressions. Under 18s can attend if accompanied by a parent/guardian.

This is a genuine opportunity to advise and educate people on the ‘truth’ of the transitioning process, their rights and entitlements, potential pitfalls, warts and all.

Format of the Day

The following representatives of GenderGP will be attending:

  • DR HELEN WEBBERLEY, CEO AND FOUNDER OF GENDERGP
    A preeminent authority on gender-nonconforming and transgender healthcare, Dr Helen Webberley is a fierce advocate for the rights of gender variant patients of all ages to get timely and safe access to healthcare when they need it. She believes that the UK’s approach to the medical support and treatment of gender variant patients of all ages is lagging behind international centres of excellence. She set up GenderGP support services in a bid to redress this balance.
  • ABY HAWKER – HEAD OF COMMUNICATIONS AT GENDERGP
    Aby Hawker is head of communications for GenderGP. She looks after all internal and external comms managing everything from event organisation to media interviews. Aby will act as compere, introducing the speakers and helping with questions etc.
  • MARIANNE OAKES, HEAD OF PSYCHOLOGICAL SUPPORT AT GENDERGP
    Marianne came into this particular branch of therapy after struggling to find a counsellor with the right experience and qualifications to help her with her own journey, as a transgender woman. In her role, Marianne works with transgender and gender-questioning clients providing both one to one therapy, family and couples counselling. Her first-hand experience as a trans woman gives her a unique insight into some of the everyday struggles and challenges which face not only those who are themselves gender variant, but also those who support them.
  • SALLY COLES RGN/RSCN NMP
    A former NHS nurse with 25 years’ experience of working with adults and children.  Sally transferred her skills to GenderGP after experiencing the frustration of looking for healthcare and support on the NHS for her 12-year-old trans daughter. She believes in individualised, inclusive care. As a Mum and a professional, Sally is proud to fight for the rights of the trans community.

Each of the 3 speakers will talk about what brought them to GenderGP, how it works, and do some myth busting. The presentations will be relaxed and accessible.

The second half of the session will be an experts’ style Q&A with all 3 experts. If you are planning to attend and would like to submit a question in advance please let us know via e-mail to admin@safehaven.org.uk

There will then be an opportunity for informal discussions.

Booking a Ticket

Attendance at the event is being restricted to a maximum of 80 and no-one will be admitted if they have not pre-booked.  If you wish to log questions to be discussed as part of the session or ask further questions on the day, accommodation etc. please contact Paula on 07916 172003. There is limited accommodation available on-site for a small fee, on a first come first serve basis. There are also plenty of places you can stay around the area, including a nearby Travel Lodge, a nearby Premier Inn, Lowennac, and the Penventon Hotel. For further information, please contact us.

The event has been organised to coincide with one of our regular social weekends, which involves an evening meal at 19:30 on Friday 7th June at a local venue with a private room open exclusively for us followed by adjournment to the fully licensed Bat Cave, hired by Safe Haven – Cornwall.

On Saturday evening from around 19:30 we will be having a party night, with singer Joe Balsdon, supported by DJ Nicole Stone. A selection of hot food will be available from the venue for a small charge.

To book a ticket, please contact Paula on 07916 172003.

New Years Eve 2017

Wow, Wow, Wow ….. Carlsberg don’t do New Years Eve parties at Safe Haven…but if they did (they still wouldn’t have a patch on us!!). What a fantastic weekend from start to finish, we certainly saw in the New Year in true Safe Haven style! 

We had a pre-New Years Eve get-together on the Saturday evening which was so nice, a group of us made our way over to Miss Molly’s Tea Room for dinner, the weather was absolutely horrendous but to be honest that made the whole occasion feel much more special, festive and cosy…. nice and warm in there sat around the open fire, scrummy food and above all being among dear friends.

After we’d had something to eat we made our way back to Safe Haven to chill out, such a nice relaxed atmosphere, quite a few games of pool were had, as well as charades, a bit of dancing and of course our traditional “dominoes with a difference” drinking game…… enough said.

New Years Eve daytime saw Pixie hard at work in her kitchen preparing all the food for our New Years Eve party. Quite a few of us made our way to Wetherspoons for lunch and a lazy afternoon, a few of the guests who were only with us for New Years Eve met us there too, again, so nice to be amongst friends excitedly anticipating the upcoming event of the evening…….and what an amazing evening it was, wonderful food, great tunes, fantastic company….. that’s how to party!